Thought of a Nutshell: The Core of Our College Journey

By Mahrose Rauf on January 28, 2013

College—it is worldly defined as an educational institution or establishment. We all connote words to “college” once we hear it. College, ‘the independent life’, or college, ‘experience of a lifetime’, or simply, college, ‘parties, parties, parties’.

Everyone has expectations. We all entered college with our own imaginations of what college may bring to us. We planned what we would set out to do, we planned what kinds of friends we would make, and we also told ourselves how we would deliver ourselves individually. Many of us look toward college as an opportunity to refresh our lives—to start over again, new, chaste, and pure.

As we fill out those applications eager to hear an acceptance response, there is a common desire that floats in the minds of many: “I’m ready to leave this place and live on my own!”  We become so caught up with hopes of leaving home that we fail to look at the opposite possibility that we may face. We think we will be better off living alone, but this may not always be the case.

Family is a crucial part of our lives, whether we believe it or not. These are not necessarily blood ties. When you break away from family, you feel their absence. Whether you come to the realization before or after the cut off, it is bound to happen—the regret of separating, that is.

As children, we are strongly connected to our parents. They are the footsteps that we seek to follow, the shadow to guide us to the light. As we grow away from that helping hand, we see a temporary pleasure in becoming the uncontrollable beings that we come out as. As teens, we feel the so-called ‘annoyance’ from our parents. It is not until later that we are hit with the fact that this was all just security, protection. Once those graduation caps fly to the sky, we make up our minds to wing away from our origin; yet the descending of that cap portrays our overthrow through our temptation-driven desires. We try one disguise, and if that does not fit, we move to another. Until we find our comfort-zone, we keep changing. It’s all like a change of identity. Wewould do anything to crack out of the nutshell that was difficult to escape.

As college students, the exploration of identities is like a journey. Like Jasmine in Bharati Mukherjee’s Jasmine, we shall eventually sort out to find ourselves. College, I believe, is a journey for identity-finding as opposed to a full breakaway from our former being. We better ourselves through the things that we undergo in college, like Jasmine. It is a journey to make us stronger, teach us improvements for the harsh realities of the world, and prepare us for all that we may encounter in our world, however, we see that that light is still evident—the one thing we cannot take our hands off of is family. The ones who started it all, who dedicated their all, they’re the permanent ties, not only through blood, but also through guide. Through the thick, through the thin, through the content, through the depression, we are all indeed naïve ones on our path to our truth.

By Mahrose Rauf

Uloop Writer
In all the chaos existent in this world, I am just an average entity seeking to find an identity of my own.

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